April 11 - 21, 2010
These are the scripts Joe Benson used on the air at 95.5 KLOS in Los Angeles. They all received final editing by Jan Benson, without whom the task would have been far too daunting. Remember to give credit where credit is due, and enjoy!
April 11, 2010
Richard Berry, who originally wrote and recorded "Louie Louie," would have been 83.
Guitarist Robert Fripp of King Crimson is 63.
On this day in 1956, James Brown debuted on the R&B charts with "Please, Please, Please."
On this day in 1961, Bob Dylan played his first professional gig. Gerde's Folk City in New York's Greenwich Village was the place, and "Blowin' in the Wind" was the highlight tune.
On this day in 1967, Paul McCartney came up with the idea for The Beatles' film "Magical Mystery Tour" after visiting The Beach Boys during sessions for the album "Smile." Unfortunately, with Beatles' manager Brian Epstein having died from an overdose recently, there was no one around to tell Paul that the film wasn't a good idea.
On this day in 1970, as The Beatles disintegrated, their single "Let It Be" hit #1.
On this day in 1970, guitarist Peter Green of Fleetwood Mac announced his departure from the original line-up in order to follow his religious beliefs.
On this day in 1981, "Don't Stand So Close To Me" by The Police peaked at #10.
On this day in 1992, "I Can't Dance" by Genesis peaked at #7 on the charts.
April 12, 2010
Steppenwolf's head guy, John Kay is 66.
David Letterman turns a cranky 63.
Guitarist Pat Travers is 56.
On this day in 1972, The Rolling Stones released "Exile on Main Street" — considered by many to be their finest album.
On this day in 1982, John Mellencamp released his "American Fool" album under the name John Cougar. The album was a huge success, enabling John to drop the "Cougar" name as soon as his contract ran out.
Not Guilty
A federal judge ruled in favor of singer Eddie Vedder in a copyright infringement case involving changes the Pearl Jam frontman made to the lyrics of a song for the Sean Penn-directed 2007 movie "Into The Wild." Original songwriter Gordon Peterson had sued Vedder and Universal Music Publishing for big bucks over lyrical changes to the song "Hard Sun." On Friday, a U.S. District Court judge said that some lyric changes are allowed under the law and changing the words did not constitute copyright infringement. Sounds like the basis for a country song about rejection...
Head Dead Head
The University of California – Santa Cruz has named Nicholas Meriwether as the new keeper of its massive Grateful Dead Archive. Nicholas published a number of articles about the Dead's cultural significance while he worked for the University Of South Carolina, and also edited "All Graceful Instruments: The Contexts Of The Grateful Dead Phenomenon" as well as four volumes of "Dead Letters: Essays On The Grateful Dead Phenomenon." As for keeping track of all that trivia, the term mind boggling certainly comes to mind!
Crooks & Scum
Perhaps only Louisiana has more corrupt state officials than New Jersey, but only New Jersey officials would consider scamming U2 and Bruce Springsteen. Members of former Governor John Corzine's office have been charged with receiving more than 350 seats for 15 concerts — including Springsteen, the Jonas Brothers and U2 — before the tickets became available to the public. The scams reportedly took place at the very same time that the State was suing online ticket brokers for offering some purchasers an unfair advantage.
It was Richard Nixon who said: "Television is to news what bumper stickers are to philosophy."
It was P. J. O'Rourke who said: "Some people are better imagined in one's bed than found there in the morning."
It was Aristotle who said: "We are what we repeatedly do; excellence, then, is not an act but a habit."
Meet Marco Andretti
This Thursday! 6pm - 7:30pm: The perfect chance to join Uncle Joe and Venom race driver Marco Andretti with his Izod IndyCar racecar just before the Toyota Grand Prix of Long Beach! Check 'em out at the Chevron station at 1790 Long Beach Boulevard at West PCH!
Grand Prix
This Friday - Saturday: Uncle Joe Benson has been part of the Toyota Grand Prix of Long Beach every April since 1986. This year you'll hear him on the P.A. and find him doing Meet & Greets at the KLOS Cool Patrol booth. Stop by!
Unc's Wild Ride!
Can you handle J.B.'s 130mph SuperBike ride?
April 13, 2010
Bassist Jack Casady of the Jefferson Airplane is 66.
Lowell George, the crazy musical genius behind Little Feat, would have been 65.
"Mighty Max" Weinberg, The E Street Band's drummer, is 59.
On this day in 1963, The Kingsmen recorded "Louie Louie" — the ultimate Rock & Roll song. They used one microphone hanging from the ceiling and, beside not being sure of the correct lyrics, the singer had a real bad sore throat. The result was a true classic!
On this day in 1964, The Beatles announced that their first film would be called "A Hard Day's Night."
On this day in 1966, The Beatles recorded "Paperback Writer."
On this day in 1974, Elton John's "Bennie and the Jets" hit #1 on the singles chart just as he released the single "Daniel."
On this day in 2005, pioneering rock pianist Johnnie Johnson died in his sleep at the age of 80 in his St. Louis home. Not only did the legendary musician help Chuck Berry get his start in the early 1950s, he was the main inspiration for the song "Johnny B. Good."
Water's Wall (Again)
Ever on the lookout for something challenging to do in his spare time, former Pink Floyd mastermind Roger Waters will take "The Wall" on the road this Fall, 30 years after the epic double album was released. Although the Floyd only performed the album in its entirety 29 times (it was an enormously expensive undertaking), it is still considered to be one of the greatest rock stage shows ever. In 1990, Roger (with special guests) performed the entire piece in Germany to celebrate the fall of the Berlin Wall. Now he'll do it again during a 35-date tour that launches on September 15th in Toronto. You can plan on seeing the updated 21st century version of the epic show at The Forum on November 29th and the Honda Center on December 13th.
Jagger/Richards/Jack Sparrow
In what might be the casting coup of the century, Johnny Depp is working on getting Rolling Stones frontman Mick Jagger to play an elder pirate alongside bandmate Keith Richards in the fourth installment of the "Pirates of the Caribbean" film series, "On Stranger Tides." As for the entire project, Johnny says, "I can't wait to get back in costume. Some people will say, 'Aha, Depp sold out by doing the sequels.' But it was never an issue for me. I love Captain Jack so much I'd do "Pirates 7" if they asked me." Maybe then they'll finally get Stones drummer Charlie Watts aboard!
Anderson/Wakeman Without Yes
After the latest version of Yes tours the States with Peter Frampton this Summer, former Yes members Jon Anderson and Rick Wakeman will do a series of gigs across the U.K. as the Anderson-Wakeman Project. The singer and keyboardist will play classic Yes material plus a few new songs as well as tell stories and anecdotes from their time on the road over the years. No word on a U.S. run — yet.
Insure This!
While there may be several good reasons you've never heard of England's "The Mirror" described as a great newspaper, they did uncover some interesting factoids concerning current insurance policies. Did you know that guitar god Jeff Beck has insured each of his fingers for $1 million, or that Rolling Stones guitarist Keith Richards has insured his hands for $2 million? Are you surprised to hear that singers Rod Stewart and Bruce Springsteen have each insured their voices for $6 million? Or that occasional Van Halen singer David Lee Roth took out a million dollar policy against his sperm (just in case he fathered a child and/or was hit with a paternity suit)? OK, maybe the Diamond Dave policy isn't all that surprising.
It was Coach John Wooden who said: "Things turn out best for the people who make the best of the way things turn out."
It was Sally Berger who said: "The secret of getting ahead is getting started."
It was Robert Paul who said: "Always be wary of the Software Engineer who carries a screwdriver."
April 14, 2010
One-time guitar god Ritchie Blackmore, of Deep Purple and Rainbow fame, is 65.
On this day in 1963, The Beatles first met The Rolling Stones after The Stones' first set of the night at the Crawdaddy Club in Richmond, England. Keith Richard's first impression? He was blown away by The Beatles' long black leather coats. George Harrison's first impression? He was impressed by the unsigned band's rowdy performance.
On this day in 1965, The Beatles announced that they had changed the title of their second film from "Eight Arms To Hold You" to "Help!"
On this day in 1969, Paul McCartney and John Lennon recorded The Beatles song "The Ballad of John and Yoko" at Abbey Road Studios.
On this day in 1972, The Rolling Stones released the single "Tumblin' Dice" from the "Exile on Main Street" album.
On this day in 1979, Van Halen's "Van Halen II" blasted onto the album charts.
On this day in 1983, bassist Pete Farndon of The Pretenders, who had just been fired from the band because of his drug problem, died of an overdose at the age of 29.
On this day in 1987, Fleetwood Mac released their "Tango In The Night" album.
On this day in 1989, Tom Petty released his first solo project, "Full Moon Fever."
This weekend, OFF THE RECORD with Joe Benson will feature the music of the Scorpions as well as Joe's brand new conversation with Rudolf Schenker, Matthias Jabs and Klaus Meine. Stream on!
Slash's Big Debut
Slash will make his big time live debut as a solo artist at this year's Download Festival at Donington Park in Leicestershire, U.K. The former Guns N' Roses guitarist and his band will hit the stage during the massive June 11th through 13th event with other acts like Aerosmith, Stone Temple Pilots, Motörhead, Billy Idol, AC/DC and Rage Against The Machine. The Download Festival is the modern day follow-up to the Monsters of Rock festivals which were held at Donington Park between 1980 and 1996.
Jeff Beck To Idol (Sort Of)
The semi-annual "American Idol" fundraising show "Idol Gives Back" will welcome legendary guitar god Jeff Beck to its broadcast next Wednesday, April 21st. Jeff will join Annie Lennox, Carrie Underwood, Alicia Keys and The Black Eyed Peas during the two-hour special. Since its inception, "Idol Gives Back" has raised an estimated $140 million for charity. And for the record, there's a good reason Jeff won't be singing.
New Phil
Seems a bit overreaching for a guy who has recently undergone spinal surgery, but former Genesis frontman Phil Collins will celebrate the September release of "Going Back," his new album of Motown covers, with a set of live shows at New York City’s Roseland Ballroom in June. The "Up Close & Personal: Phil Collins Plays 60’s Motown & Soul" concerts and will feature music from his first new studio album in eight years as well as other classic R&B and Pop gems. Phil will be backed by an 18-piece ensemble of musicians and vocalists, including the legendary Motown backing band, The Funk Brothers.
Smell KISS Clean
Gosh darn it, what red blooded American doesn't want to smell like KISS? Good thing you can now buy the official KISS brand of soap! Of course it's jumbo size — two and a half times larger than the regular bar of soap — with the mighty KISS logo etched deeply into its very core. But wait — there's more! KISS soap is also lightly scented with the official KISS HIM fragrance! Lord have mercy!
It was Mae West who said: "Give a man a free hand and he'll run it all over you."
It was Victor Borge who said: "Laughter is the shortest distance between two people."
It was Fulton Oursler who said: "Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves — regret for the past and fear of the future."
April 15, 2010
Guitarist Dave Edmunds is 66.
Mike Chapman, who co-wrote glam anthems like Sweet's "Ballroom Blitz" with Nicky Chinn, and produced Blondie, The Knack and Pat Benatar, is 63.
On this day in 1966, Buffalo Springfield performed for the first time in public when they opened for the Byrds in San Bernardino. Little did anyone know that two years down the road Buffalo Springfield's Stephen Stills and Neil Young would join up with the Byrds' David Crosby in Crosby, Stills, Nash & Young.
On this day in 1971, The Beatles won the Best Film Music (Original Song Score) Oscar for their film "Let It Be."
On this day in 1972, "Roundabout" by Yes peaked at #13 and Led Zeppelin's "Rock And Roll" topped out at #47 on the charts.
On this day in 1978, Kansas' "Dust In The Wind" peaked at #6 on the singles charts.
This weekend, OFF THE RECORD with Joe Benson will feature the music of the Scorpions as well as Joe's brand new conversation with Rudolf Schenker, Matthias Jabs and Klaus Meine. Stream on!
Slash LP Debuts
"Slash," Slash's new solo album, debuted at #3 on the "Billboard 200." Besides his excellent guitar work, the project showcases several vocalists including Kid Rock, Ozzy Osbourne and Fergie of The Black Eyed Peas. You can tell him how much you enjoy his work during his autograph signing at Amoeba Records in Hollywood as part of Record Store Day on Saturday.
Ozzy's Date
Mark the date on your calendars — Ozzy Osbourne's new album "Scream" will be out on June 15th. Of course there'll be an 18-month world tour to promote the effort soon after the release, so be prepared!
Cheap Tricking
So how will Cheap Trick follow up playing the KLOS/Tecate stage at the Toyota Grand Prix of Long Beach this Saturday? First they'll co-headline a series of dates with Squeeze in July, then co-headline with Blondie in August. After that run, the Trick will be featured on episodes of PBS' "Austin City Limits" and "Soundstage" on some still-to-be-announced air dates.
South American Jinx
After various staging problems disrupted their current South American tour, word is that Guns N' Roses actually scrapped their Tuesday show in Guatemala because only 3,000 of 15,000 tickets were sold. Meanwhile, Aerosmith canceled their May 27th concert in Buenos Aires because "The venue couldn't work it out."
Carlos & Steve
Two Rock & Roll Hall Of Famers for the price of one ticket. Carlos Santana will be doing a summer arena tour with former Traffic frontman Steve Winwood as the opening act. The two will start in Minnesota on June 30th, and probably hit the Southland in August. Until then, Carlos' regular Las Vegas gig, "Supernatural Santana – A Trip Through the Hits," continues through May 2nd at the Hard Rock Hotel.
It was Henry Brooks Adams who said: "A friend in power is a friend lost."
It was Will Smith who said: "Too many people spend money they haven't earned, to buy things they don't want, to impress people they don't like."
It was Steven Wright who said: "Everywhere is walking distance if you have the time."
Meet Marco Andretti
Today! Today! Today! 6pm - 7:30pm: The perfect chance to join Uncle Joe and Venom race driver Marco Andretti with his Izod IndyCar racecar just before the Toyota Grand Prix of Long Beach! Check 'em out at the Chevron station at 1790 Long Beach Boulevard at West PCH!
Tax Time Again
It's THAT time of the year again. Don't forget to pay your taxes... 12 million illegal aliens are depending on you!
Taxing Factoids
On February 25, 1913 the 16th Amendment to the U.S. Constitution was ratified, providing for an income tax. Here's the short form on taxing factoids.
#1. Americans pay over $30,000 in federal, state and local taxes every second of every day.
#2. In a lifetime, the average American files 42 income tax returns and spends 464 hours preparing those forms. The average American earns $1,235,720 in his lifetime, and of this sum pays $178,364 in taxes.
#3. The number of unclaimed tax refunds that are being held by the I.R.S.: 96,000. The amount of money that is waiting to be refunded: $62 million.
#4. The official manual of the Internal Revenue Service has been hailed as "the world's most confusing publication" — it is 38,000 pages long.
#5. In 1695, English law levied a tax on bachelors. At the time, it seemed like a good idea to inspire eligible Englishmen to choose a bride.
#6. In 1820, the state of Missouri levied a one-dollar tax on bachelors from ages 21 to 50 because they didn't have a wife.
#7. In 1702, Russia enacted a tax on men who sported beards.
#8. The sovereign countries with the lowest income tax in the world are Bahrain and Qatar. No matter what one's income is, it's not taxable. (It's nice to have all that oil in the ground, isn't it?)
April 16, 2010
Foghat singer/guitarist "Lonesome Dave" Peverett would have been 67.
Gerry Rafferty of Stealer's Wheel and "Baker Street" fame is 63.
On this day in 1947, the first zoom lens was demonstrated to the public. (Would Rock & Roll be the same without it?)
On this day in 1972, the Electric Light Orchestra played their first live show. As Jeff Lynne told me, it was just barely so-so.
On this day in 1973, Queen played their first U.S. concert at Regis College in Denver. No one knew what to make of them!
On this day in 1977, Fleetwood Mac released "Dreams," which soon became their first #1 hit.
Volcanic Interruption
That incredible fallout of ash from the volcanic eruption in Iceland has grounded a huge number of flights out of Europe and threatened at least a handful of acts due to appear this weekend at Coachella Valley Music and Arts Festival in Indio. While none of the stranded musicians are headliners, the suspended flights are also affecting international music fans who were traveling from across the pond. Of course this does give Sly Stone a convenient excuse: If the super flake's performance (with or without The Family Stone) doesn't happen, he can always blame the ash!
Eagles To The Bowl
Never ones to rush into anything, the Eagles are making their Hollywood Bowl debut tonight — almost 40 years after they formed! They'll also play the Bowl on Saturday and Tuesday, and the Honda Center in Anaheim on the 25th. The shows are in support of the Hall Of Famers' 2007 "Long Road Out Of Eden" — their first new studio album in 28 years!
Record Store Day
While digital downloading reigns supreme in the commercial world, tomorrow's annual Record Store Day will celebrate independent record stores. More artists than ever are contributing special vinyl releases to the cause, including both The Beatles and The Rolling Stones. Just 1,000 of The Beatles' 1966 hit "Paperback Writer" — backed with the psychedelic classic "Rain" — will come in a vintage-style paper Parlophone wrapper for this event. And The Stones are putting out the previously unreleased "Plundered My Soul" off the "Exile On Main Street" reissue. Devo, R.E.M., Soundgarden, Pavement and Them Crooked Vultures are among the other acts issuing special edition vinyl.
Sir Elty To Idol (Sort Of)
Here's the biggy we were waiting for. Elton John will headline next week's "Idol Gives Back" episode of "American Idol." Sir Elty will perform on behalf of his Elton John AIDS Foundation, for which he has raised $220 million since the early Nineties. Alicia Keys, Carrie Underwood, the Black Eyed Peas, Annie Lennox, Jeff Beck, Joss Stone and Mary J. Blige are also expected to perform. The Children's Health Fund, Feeding America, Malaria No More, Save the Children and the United Nations Foundation are among the charities that will benefit from the show which raised more than $140 million in 2007 and 2008.
Soundgarden!
Soundgarden will play their first show in 13 years tonight. Singer Chris Cornell, guitarist Kim Thayil, bassist Ben Shepherd and drummer Matt Cameron (late of Pearl Jam) secretly reunited last year and will finally take the stage in their Seattle hometown for their first comeback show. They're also among the confirmed headliners for this year's Lollapalooza festival in Chicago. How long before they hit the Southland?
It was J. K. Rowling who said: "If you want to see the true measure of a man, watch how he treats his inferiors, not his equals."
It was Coach Vince Lombardi who said: "If you aren't fired with enthusiasm, you will be fired with enthusiasm."
It was Dolly Parton who said: "The way I see it, if you want the rainbow, you gotta put up with the rain."
April 17, 2010
On this day in 1960, Rock & Roll pioneer Eddie Cochran was killed and Gene Vincent was seriously injured in a London car crash.
On this day in 1964, The Rolling Stones released their debut album, and the Ford Motor Company unveiled the first Mustang. Fortunately, both are still with us.
On this day in 1972, Keith Richards became a father to a little girl when Anita Pallenberg gave birth to their daughter, Dandelion.
On this day in 1982, Stevie Nicks' "Edge Of Seventeen" peaked at #11 as Van Halen's cover of "(Oh) Pretty Woman" topped out at #12 on the charts and Toto released "Rosanna."
On this day in 1998, Linda McCartney died of breast cancer at the age of 56.
On this day in 2008, keyboardist Danny Federici of Bruce Springsteen's E Street Band lost his three-year battle with melanoma at the age of 58.
Naked vs. Nude
With this year's Toyota Grand Prix of Long Beach taking place this weekend, I thought we should clear this up once and for all. The words "naked" and "nude" are not the same. Naked implies unprotected. Nude means unclothed. Any questions? Try Googling it.
April 18, 2008
The Doors/Janis Joplin producer Paul Rothchild would have been 75 today.
On this day in 1970, "The Letter" by Joe Cocker entered the charts as Norman Greenbaum's "Spirit in the Sky" peaked at #3 and Badfinger's "Come and Get It" topped out at #7 on the singles chart.
On this day in 1981, after recording 11 albums in 13 years, Yes announced they were splitting up. Within two years, they re-formed for the hugely successful "90125" album and tour.
On this day in 1988, Eric Clapton's "Crossroads" box set was released. Its overwhelming commercial and artistic success paved the way for many other artists' compilations — most of which were extremely inferior.
April 19, 2008
On this day in 1968, John Lennon, George Harrison and their wives left the Maharishi Mahesh Yogi's ashram in Rishikesh, India two weeks before their study was complete. Fellow Beatles Ringo Starr and Paul McCartney had actually split several days earlier.
On this day in 1969, Steppenwolf's "Rock Me" peaked at #10 on the singles chart.
On this day in 1974, guitarist Ron Wood played his first live show with The Rolling Stones.
On this day in 1975, Elton John fired his longtime bassist, Dee Murray, and drummer, Nigel Olsson, the day before his album "Captain Fantastic and the Brown Dirt Cowboy" was released. A few years later, after he cleared his head, Sir Diva rehired the boys.
On this day in 1980, Van Halen's third album, "Women & Children First," blasted onto the charts.
On this day in 1980, Brian Johnson replaced the late Bon Scott as AC/DC's lead singer. Within two weeks, the band was recording their classic "Back In Black" album.
On this day in 1980, the Eagles' "I Can't Tell You Why" peaked at #8 on the singles chart.
Selling Out Fenway
Do you really think anyone was surprised? Aerosmith's Fenway Park concert (their only announced U.S. concert date so far) sold out in less than a day. And if just seeing the Hall Of Famers return from the edge wasn't enough, they'll be playing with fellow Boston rockers the J. Geils Band for the first time ever! The concert at the Boston Red Sox home park will roll on August 14th. Where do you think they'll pop up next?
Blondie Drops In
Blondie was in town over the weekend to pick up The Icon Award at the eighth annual "TV Land Awards." "Glee" actress Jane Lynch presented the Hall Of Famers with the award in a taped ceremony that will air next Sunday.
U2's Newest Further Down The Road
U2's new album won't be released before they start the next leg of their tour in June, but we should see it by the end of the year. But will the follow-up to "No Line on the Horizon" come out in the traditional album format? Their longtime manager Paul McGuinness says he thinks it would be “interesting” to play some of the new material onstage before it's released.
It was Mae West who said: "When choosing between two evils, I always like to try the one I've never tried before."
It was Thomas A. Edison who said: "Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work."
It was Yoko Ono who said: "You will always look good to the person who loves you."
Five Quickies
1. A goldfish has a memory span of three seconds.
2. A 'jiffy' is an actual unit of time for 1/100th of a second.
3. Women blink nearly twice as much as men.
4. In the last 4,000 years, no new animals have been domesticated.
5. An ostrich's eye is bigger than its brain. (Bet you work with someone like that too!)
April 20, 2010
Keyboardist Craig Frost, who worked with Grand Funk Railroad and Bob Seger, is 62.
On this day in 1965, Eric Clapton joined John Mayall's Bluesbreakers.
On this day in 1966, The Beatles recorded the vocals for Paul McCartney's song "Eleanor Rigby" — none of the Fab Four played any instruments on the tune.
On this day in 1968, Deep Purple played their first concert ever. Denmark was the place, "Deaf in Denmark" was the result.
On this day in 1991, Small Faces/Humble Pie singer/guitarist Steve Marriott died in a fire at his home in London. He was just 44.
T.P. Postpones
As first reported on KLOS last Friday, Tom Petty & The Heartbreakers have postponed the first 10 dates on their upcoming tour to better promote the delayed release of their new album "Mojo." The tour was to hit the Southland in late May and early June, but now T.P. & The H.B.s will rock the Hollywood Bowl on October 1st and the Verizon Wireless Amphitheatre in Irvine on October 2nd. As for their great new album "Mojo," we'll have to wait until June 15th to pick up a copy.
Acid In The Garden
Here's one of the weirdest stories so far in this weird, weird year. The ever trustworthy Brit press is reporting that construction workers digging up the garden at one of John Lennon's former English homes stumbled upon a leather bag containing "what may be John's long-lost stash of LSD." Evidently The Beatle was rumored to have buried the stash before he went to India in 1967 to renounce drugs. Of course when he changed his mind upon his return, he couldn’t find the stash (duh!). Since most of the bottles in the bag were broken and LSD had a very short shelf life, it’s unlikely any proof of the drug will ever be confirmed... but that just means the bag will surface on eBay sooner rather than later.
Hetfield From The Heart
Metallica frontman James Hetfield has taken part in a documentary examining the need for an emotional bond that children without fathers often experience. In "Absent," the singer discusses coming from a broken home, explaining how when his “family fell apart” he “had feelings of abandonment.” James also references Metallica lyrics and allowed the use of six Metallica songs for the movie. Right so!
It was Ricky Lee Jones who said: "You never know when you're making a memory."
It was Kin Hubbard who said: "Flattery won't hurt you if you don't swallow it."
It was Lady Dorothy Neville who said: "The real art of conversation is not only to say the right thing in the right place, but to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment."